07 Mar 2014
in Belief Systems, Career, Change, Confidence, Confidence, Credibility in Business, Decision Making, Inspiration, Networking, new business, procrastination, Success
Tags: don't know where to start, its hard to fail, Life Coaching in Leek, one little daisy, planning tips, scared of success, success, theodore roosevelt quote, Top Tips, www.reflectionscoaching.co.uk
Its March already. We’re almost in Spring. So yesterday I was very surprised to spot a rather frozen looking daisy in flower in the field as I went out for my morning dog walk.
My immediate reaction was surprise and then concern that the seasons are out of kilter. How would this one poor little daisy survive especially if the weather changed again.
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Brett Trafford Photography
Yet nature has a way of looking after itself. What strength and tenacity did this one small flower have to stand up and be counted before its peers. Maybe it won’t survive, it has already overcome the odds to push through ground that has been changing between frozen and swamp like. Perhaps this flower has a better chance because its ahead of the game.
“It is hard to fail, but it is worse than to never have tried to succeed”
- Theodore Roosevelt.
There will always be reasons not to to something, but if we look long and hard at ourselves are they really reasons not to try?
I am frequently approached by people who are scared to start a project because they are scared that they will not succeed. If you want to increase your chances of success then give me a call today on 07714 216388 to see how I can help you get the success you deserve.
14 Feb 2014
in Belief Systems, Confidence, Self Care, Self Esteem
Tags: am i worth it, balance, Confidence, hearts and flowers, Life Coaching Online, love me, self esteem, survival techniques, time for me, valentines day, work life balance, www.reflectionscoaching.co.uk, you're worth it
Its valentines day – everywhere is full of hearts and flowers and couples who are all loved up. And its lovely because it makes us think about what really matters in our life. Things tend to be a little different in the Trafford household as its Hubby’s birthday so I have to work extra hard to spoil him. On the whole I think we get the balance right.
And its balance that I wanted to talk about today. Its important when we talk about who we love to remember that we should love ‘me’ too.
How often do you take time out to really appreciate the things that you do for yourself or even make time for yourself.
So when you’ve finished with valentines day and the flowers have faded, set a date for “Love Me Day” and do something special – just for you – to appreciate you, what a wonderful person you are and to thank you for simply being you.
You’re worth it.
If you struggle to appreciate you and who you are, it could be that your self esteem is feeling a little low. Give Caro a call on 07714 216388 today to book your free consultation to see what you could do to feel “worth it” again.
07 Feb 2014
in Belief Systems, Decision Making, Feeling Stressed, Health goals, Inspiration, Motivation and reward, Personal Growth, Self Care, Stress, Success, time management, transformation, Work Life Balance
Tags: coaching, life rules, me time, neals yard, nyr, Self-esteem, survival plan, survival tecniques, time for me, Top Tips, work/life balance
Survival plans? Hmmm. I’m not talking about what happens if a fire breaks out and you need to exit the building. I’m talking about those very core things that get you through your week.
Survival planning in an exercise I’ve done with a number of groups. They’re often the very rewards we give our self. They can be huge, although sometimes even the littlest of things can help us survive our day.
Your survival plan should apply whether you’re self employed, working or coping with a family. They’re there to reward you for all the great things you’ve done today or this week. Here’s some ideas to get you started:
- Buying yourself a treat when you do the weekly shopping, perhaps a magazine, or chocolate bar.
- Having a luxury bath once a week, lock the bathroom door, light some candles and use your favorite bath products.
- Go out for a walk with your partner once a week.
- Have half an hours me time before bed.
- Taking a family holiday once a year
- Having one weekend a month with no work!
Remember though once they’re in your plan they’re there to stick to. I’m an advocate of sticking to the plan!!
So what’s in your survival plan, would love to hear your ideas, please share them by commenting below.
In this busy world, many of my clients need help making time for themselves. If you need a little ‘me time‘ back in your life, then give me call today on 07714 216388 to take advantage of your free consultation.
31 Jan 2014
in Belief Systems, Business Coaching, Career, Coaching, Confidence, Decision Making, Goals and Planning, Health goals, Inspiration, Motivation and reward, new business, Overcoming Obstacles, Self Care, Self Esteem, Success, transformation, Weight Management, Work Life Balance
Tags: Achieving Goals, Change, I don't have enough money, I don't have enough time, i want to start a business, Life Coaching Staffordshire, new years resolution, Personal Development in Leek, Top Tips, www.reflectionscoaching.co.uk
We all had so many good intentions at the beginning of January, for most of us now, we’ll be finding some of those goals a bit of a challenge, especially those of us with weight loss, or ‘giving up’ type of goals. Even those of us with achievement goals, i.e. ‘I want to start a business’ may have found obstacles in the way.
So what is your biggest obstacle?
Have you ever considered the answer to that question could well be “Me”. The one thing stopping you achieving your goals could actually be you. Psychologically we do this all of the time. Those voices in your head that say “I can’t because……”, and it may be about money, or time, or family life. The truth is these are just excuses you have made up for yourself. If you truly wanted to achieve something you could, if you stepped out of the way.
SO push aside those negative thoughts and instead of thinking why you CAN’T do something. Think about all the reasons why you CAN.
If there’s something you want to achieve and your thoughts of CAN’T are taking over, give Carolyn a call today on 07714 216388 and book your free consultation. Together we’ll get you thinking CAN.
copyright Carolyn Trafford 2014
24 Jan 2014
in Belief Systems, Business Coaching, Career Advice, Credibility in Business, Decision Making, Feeling Stressed, Goals and Planning, Organised, Overcoming Obstacles, procrastination, Success, time management, Work Life Balance
Tags: admin overload, Business, diarise, motivation and goals, Procrastination, tax deadline, tax returns, Top Tips, where do i start?
Well, last weekend saw me racing to get my tax returns sorted. OK, so although it wasn’t completely eleventh hour, as I don’t like leaving things to the last minute I was feeling the pressure of it. Every year I promise myself that I’ll be more organised, and every year I complete them in January.
I have no excuse, I’m an organised person. I’m just an organised person with a tendency to procrastinate. So this year I’m going to take these 3 simple steps to my accounting with a goal of having my tax return done by the end June. Having the finalised accounts will help me with my business planning for the following year.
- Schedule 30 minutes every week, this is to go through my diary and record my weekly miles and expenditure, number the receipts and record my earnings.
- Place a diary entry end April to chase the additional information required. I.e. getting tax certificates on my savings accounts, etc. Check that I can log onto the system. Check stock etc
- Diarise a half day in June to pull together all missing information and enter onto system
The advantage of doing this is that all the information is fresher in my mind. You can use this 3 step diary approach to any tasks that you keep putting off.
If you find yourself procrastinating over important tasks, get in touch with Carolyn today on 07714 216388 to take advantage of your free consultation.
copyright Carolyn Trafford (2014)
17 Jan 2014
in Belief Systems, Career, Credibility in Business, Feeling Stressed, First Impressions, Goals and Planning, Health goals, Inspiration, Motivation and reward, new business, Organised, Personal Growth, procrastination, Self Care, Stress, Success, time management, Work Life Balance
Tags: Achieving Goals, Coaching staffordshire, dreams, goals, make time for me, me time, motivation and goals, new years resolution, planning, resolutions, Self-Help, to do lists, Top Tips, www.reflectionscoaching.co.uk, you time
How many times have you said that? “I don’t have time to” or “If only I had more time….”
Modern lifestyles, juggling jobs, businesses, family, friends, is there any time left for me?
The easy answer is “No”. If we settle for “No” then we’re seriously selling ourselves short and under estimating our abilities to prioritise, juggle, organise….. whatever it takes to find some me time.
It is January and we’ve probably taken on some new goals and resolutions too. Where do we find that extra time from to run, go the gym, spend more time with our partners, something has to give if we are to be successful.
Try these 3 steps, to making some time:
- Make a list, make it big, Write down everything you need to do regularly or as a one off. This is the biggest to do list you’ve ever made. Don’t miss anything.
- Now divide it into 3. Be ruthless in your decisions. Separate your tasks into “What really doesn’t matter”, “What could be given to someone else”, “What has to be done by you”
- Make it a priority to talk to others that can help you, whether this is your boss, colleagues, partner, children, parents or friends, ask for help. Ditch the stuff that doesn’t matter. But make a task of doing it. By that I mean don’t ignore them, make a conscious decision to remove them from your mind and your physical to do list. Remind yourself they don’t matter. In fact exterminate them! What’s left needs to be scheduled, your online calendar, or a diary – either will do – its the physical act of getting the information out of your mind and onto paper that creates the space and time you need to think and get on with the tasks you need to do.
Perhaps you need a bit more help creating a perfect work/life balance for you. Carolyn regularly coaches business owners and employees alike on achieving a low stress, healthy lifestyle to create more time for what YOU want to do. Call Carolyn now on 07714 216388 to see how she can help you achieve the life YOU want.
Exterminate your to do list!
10 Jan 2014
in Belief Systems, Career, Change, Coaching, Confidence, Credibility in Business, Goals and Planning, Mentoring, Motivation and reward, Networking, new business, Organised, procrastination, Self Care, Success, transformation, Weight Management, Work Life Balance
Tags: Achieving Goals, challenge, challenging goals, Coaching staffordshire, mission, mission and goals, mission statements, motivation and goals, Self-Help, Top Tips, weight loss goals
2013 saw so many challenges, it was a year that saw my business gain more direction and focus and at the same time diversify, adapt and change. There was a 3 day expedition for charity in the Lake District in May and a second fundraiser performing stand up comedy for Gingerbread.
I’m now looking ahead to 2014, and thinking that my few humble goals are nothing special. A few carefully constructed action plans and a bit of dedication and motivation will see me through. What they are lacking is the real challenge, the excitement of 2013.
How do I make my goals exciting? How do I really challenge myself in 2014?
I’ve thought about this long and hard and concluded that most of the excitement in a goal comes from the challenge. My goals seem flat and uninteresting because they are task based i.e.
- I will take on x new team members this year.
- I will do y task by z date.
These are just stepping stones to enable something bigger. So I’m going to shake them up a little. I’m talking more about missions than goals. My mission should be all encompassing, challenging and exciting. It should put my business on a new level and the tasks based goals will become obvious.
The mission will take my business to a new level. And will look more like this:
I will be known as………..
Of course this question still needs to be answered. It affects my goals, my branding, my business planning and I need to take time out to do this.
What will you be known for in 2014?
If you can’t answer that question, taking some time out for you to think about it can be a useful process and a coach can help facilitate your thinking and provide challenge. If you want to know more about how a coaching session could help you or your business then CALL CAROLYN TODAY on 07714 216388
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03 Jan 2014
in Business Coaching, Career, Credibility in Business, Decision Making, Goals and Planning, Health goals, Inspiration, Mentoring, Motivation and reward, new business, Organised, procrastination, Success, Weight Management
Tags: Achieving Goals, Business, Change, goals, Health, motivation and goals, new years resolution, survival techniques, Top Tips, Weight loss, weight watchers, www.reflectionscoaching.co.uk
Why do I so often fail with my new year resolution? Are Goals and Resolutions the same thing?
Setting New Years resolutions are a bit of a tradition. I’ve been waking up on the 1st January for as long as I can remember and setting resolutions. Its something my mum first encouraged me to do.
How many resolutions last the year? Not many and that’s probably the case for most people. In fact if you start to research the topic you’ll find that stats suggest that most will be broken by the middle Monday in January. Frequently dubbed Blue Monday, this day is the accumulation of long nights, back to work syndrome, arrival of credit card bills and little to look forward to. Add to that, the fact that most people’s resolutions are about giving something up or doing something we don’t want to, then it can become a difficult proposition to maintain.
Properly formulated goals can be a very different proposition. So why are goals so different?
So ask yourself the question – Do you want to lose weight or is it that you want to feel better about yourself? Do you want to give up alcohol or do you want to live a healthier lifestyle?
Once you understand what’s driving your resolution then working toward achieving that goal is about having positive motivation, rather than moving away from something you don’t want.
Goals should be specific. They should identify exactly what it is you want to achieve, this way you will know when you’re achieved it. This should include a quantity if appropriate and a time by when you will have completed it.
So if your goal is about getting fit, how will you know when you feel fitter? Perhaps a measure might be being able to run for 5 minutes without stopping by the end of March OR being able to walk upstairs without being out of breath.
Goals are much easier to achieve in small steps. If your goal is to write a novel by the end of the year, that’s one big task that you may put off until November and then it becomes unrealistic. Break your goals into small manageable steps, which in this case might be to write the outline by the end of January, 1st chapter by end of February and get feedback in March. Celebrate each achievement as you reach it.
And remember, don’t be hard on yourself. We all lose our way from time to time. It’s like riding a bike, the trick is to get back on when you fall off. So don’t be hard on yourself, just resolve to start again.
What’s Your NY Resolution?
If you need help with your goals this year, then having some support can really make the difference. Give me a call now on 07714 216388 to see how I can help you make a splash with your goals.
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