Why Is Goal Setting Like Getting Married

Those of you that know me personally will also know that I’m not adverse to getting out a camera at the weekend and tagging along with my husband Brett Trafford to photograph a wedding.  We were at a wedding last Friday and it started me thinking about how working with your goals is a bit like getting married, yet it so much easier to divorce our goals than our spouses.

My VVW approach to goal setting is simple and could help prevent you from divorcing your goals.

Vows – Make a commitment to yourself as you would your future spouse.  During the ceremony the couple promised so much to each other and are unlikely to break them.  Ask yourself why you find it so easy to break promises to yourself?

Value – When entering into a marriage we value the thoughts and opinions of our loved one.  Its equally important to value yourself.  Its only when you achieve this that you will place enough emphasis on achieving your goals.  Lets face it – you’re worth it aren’t you?

Witness – Tell others what you’ve set out to achieve.  Tell no-one and it becomes too easy to back out when things get tough.  If you’re going on a diet, tell people, the risk of guilt if caught stuffing that chocolate bar into your mouth might well just stop you sabotaging yourself.

 

I’m currently working towards a goal of losing a stone in weight.  I know from experience that I often set myself a goal and give in.  So I’ve made my vows to 80 witnesses in my facebook Thin From Within facebook group and now potentially another 2000 here on my blog.  All I need to do now, is know that I am worth it.

 

P1060885copyright Carolyn Trafford

 

 

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3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. quirkybooks
    Sep 25, 2013 @ 00:06:56

    Reblogged this on beatredundancyblues and commented:
    Hi everyone

    When you are initially made redundant, it can be hard to think about your future, to come up with a plan for it, and to set goals. However, in order to move forward with your life, that is exactly what you need to do. Here is some good advice on how to make goals stick.

    Stay positive
    Sandra Bellamy

    Reply

  2. quirkybooks
    Sep 25, 2013 @ 00:09:00

    I love this post and have reblogged it at http://www.beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com – Making goals is one thing, making those goals stick, is another, more difficult one. Great advice.

    Reply

  3. Carolyn Trafford
    Sep 25, 2013 @ 08:23:25

    Thanks Sandra, I write through my own experiences and having survived Redundancy myself have experienced both the elation of making changes that are right for me, and also some of those low moments of despair – setting goals has really helped me through that – it needs determination too

    Reply

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